In honor of Mother’s Day, we’re going to look at cremation urns for mothers. And, in the process, I’d like to skirt gracefully around the edges of that oh-so-complex relationship we have with our mothers. It doesn’t seem to matter who you are – and what type of mother you had – the connection we have to ‘mom’ is a life-long one. We’ve written before about some of the memorial urn styles that families have selected for mom and you can read about that too.
Types of Mothers
Psychologists argue there are different types of mothers. Some say there are five types: the perfectionist; the unpredictable mom, the mother who strives to be a child’s best friend; the self-centered “me-first” mom, and that ideal of motherhood, the “complete” mother. Others claim there are ten or fifteen different types of mothers. No matter the number – or the names given to them – there’s no denying our mothers pay a very part in preparing us for adulthood.
A Bit about Mother’s Day
Mother’s Day is celebrated around the world, albeit on different days of the year. In Afghanistan, as in other areas in the Middle East, it’s celebrated in March; in Luxemburg, the importance of motherhood is acknowledged in June. (Source: ChartsBin.com) Here in the United States (and dozens of other nations) it always falls on the second Sunday in May – this year; the date is May 12th and whether you celebrate the day or not–its arrival is sure to stir up memories and emotions.
Usually, families gather together to acknowledge and celebrate the mother who spent years raising us. We toast to her health and happiness, kiss her on the cheek, and we may even have arrived with a small gift. Or maybe we send flowers. But, when Mom is gone – as mine has been for the past 30 years – Mother’s Day isn’t the same. We struggle to find meaningful ways to do those things we always did: show mom how much we love and appreciate her presence in our lives. This Mother’s Day, it may be appropriate – and personally healing – to select the perfect cremation urn for mother. Let’s take a closer look.
Consider the charming Mom Urn Necklace. Made of durable stainless steel, it measures 1-1/4? L x 3/4? W x 1/4?; comes with a 22? chain and microfiber jewelry pouch.
The next two cremation urns for mothers include the image of a cardinal. If you’re not already aware, the cardinal is deeply symbolic. Many believe cardinals are messengers from someone who has died. Certainly, the male’s brilliant cardinal red color, and (to Christians) is symbolic of the blood of Christ, And red is symbolic of steadfast faith and love.
Cardinal on Dogwood Flower Urn
This full-size adult cardinal cremation urn is classically styled, and features the image of a cardinal sitting on the branch of a dogwood tree. Like the cardinal, the dogwood is also a symbol for Christians: “It is said that the wood of the dogwood tree is the hardest and that it was chosen to be used in the cross on which Jesus Christ was crucified.”(Source:hunker.com.) It’s a very popular urn and the reviews we’ve received are heartwarming.
Just last month, Kayla wrote “The loss of my grandma was very sudden and we were not prepared for all of the decisions you have to make when someone leaves us. Urn Garden made one of the hardest decisions into one of the easiest. The urn is absolutely stunning. The engraving looks phenomenal and the quality is top notch for an incredibly affordable price. Thank you so much. She would have absolutely loved it.”
These same customers appreciate the Jeweled Cardinal Keepsake Urn. Beautifully detailed, this diminutive keepsake urn (it’s just 3” high) is a gorgeous tribute to mother.
If the symbolism of the Cardinal isn’t a ‘good fit” with the memories you hold of “Mom”, consider the Hummingbird Mini-Urn for Ashes. It’s a bit larger than the previous keepsake urn, measuring 5″ x 3-1/2″.
Hummingbirds are believed by many to o be messengers between deceased and the living. And in Native American cultures, hummingbirds are seen as healers and bringers of love, good luck and joy” (Source: wootandhammy.com.)
Siesta Key Beach Cremation Urn
If your mom loved the ocean, then Siesta Key Beach Urn is the perfect full-sized cremation urn to honor her memory. It stands almost 11” high, and the colors are deep and rich. Like the earlier full-sized urn, this cremation urn can be engraved, personalizing your memorial.
Honor Your Relationship with Mother
My mother died 30 years ago. I have only 3 pictures of her, and my memories of her are very mixed. So, next time, I’d l like to explore the ways we can honor our deceased mothers on Mother’s Day while, at the same time, dealing with the emotions – love, grief, anger, loneliness – raised each year by holidays such as this.
As I said earlier, my mother died almost 30 years ago. Still, every Mother’s Day, I think of her – and take time to make a list of all the wonderful attributes she instilled in me. Why dwell on the negatives? If she were still alive, I’d like share this (albeit short) list with her:
1. You taught me to love the history and power of words.
2. You showed me how the act of writing can heal emotional wounds.
3. You shared your love of gardening with me – a gift I still enjoy.
4. Through contrasting behavior, you showed me how to be a compassionate, caring, attentive mother.
This Mother’s Day, why not write your own “gratitude” list? If your mother is still alive, share it with her. If, as in my case, she’s no longer alive; simply speak the words aloud. In doing so, you acknowledge her gifts to you; and energize your on-going relationship with (the memories of) your mother.
