There are many ways that scattering methods can be used to create a personalized ceremony. For families that choose scattering as a method of dispersing ashes, many still like to have a small portion of the ashes or a lock of hair incorporated into a small memorial such as a piece of cremation jewelry or keepsake urn . Others prefer creating a memorial that may include a stepping stone , garden plaque, statuary, or a garden sculpture to honor their loved one. Garden stones can also be used indoors or out, and all create loving touches in your sacred space. Whatever your decision, this is a personal choice that is meant to honor and represent your passed loved one as well as heal, restore, and remember the time and life that your loved one spent on Earth.
Keeping it on the Down Low: Ceremony for Spreading Ashes
Some families like to scatter ashes from way up high, this lady is releasing a keepsake amount of cremated ashes from the Eiffel Tower in Paris.
Or this undisclosed location:
We prefer to keep it on the down low, whether spreading ashes on the ground or over the water:

If you plan to spread the ashes on the ground, a shallow trench or groove can be dug in the soil or sand where the ashes can be placed. This process can be personalized by drawing out the person’s name or a heart shaped trench. Add candles or luminaries around the trench to create a spiritual ambiance and can be later used as a keepsake for those that attend. Wildflower seeds and tree plantings are another way to personalize the event. At the end of the ceremony, participants can either rake over the remains in the trench, or have the water from the ocean sweep the remains out to sea while family and friends join hands and remember the individual’s life.
Dust in the Wind: Scattering Ashes Ceremony
The most common method of scattering ashes is known as “casting” , which is basically tossing the ashes into the wind. Let’s talk about the WIND. Consider wind direction and try to cast down to prevent “blow-back”. The dense nature of human ashes combined with a fine powder forms a whitish-gray cloud when it becomes airborne.
Some families want to release the ashes all at once, and others want to spread the ashes as a group, each member taking a turn scattering the remains.
This family opted to split the ashes in individual envelopes, some DIY-ers use paper cups. Your family funeral director can make this process much easier if you need assistance or have questions regarding this process.
Scattering tubes and biodegradable scattering urns are also available.
Big Buck Madness
Several of our friends have been on the hunt for elk. They show up in Montana or Idaho, get on a horse and hunt. Sounds like a major inconvenience to me, and the elk would probably agree, but these men don’t seem to mind to shell out the bucks to have this experience.
Our stag urn is a tribute to the nature lover or those seeking an urn for the deer hunter.
Martinis and a Trip to the Airport
Yesterday, my 85 year-old grandmother sent me to the Wal-Marts with a short list:
- Arthritis Pain Reliever
- Overnight Pads
- 5th of Gin
- Tequila & Margarita Mix